About Annika
From a deep desire to understand what happens when people truly touch each other. I wanted to know how the body worked, what drives people in sexuality, the fantasies people have and what happens behind the door in the bedroom.
As a young adult, I was insecure about those same topics myself. I felt ashamed of the very subjects that fascinated me. It was my partner at the time who taught me to talk about sex: really talk. He showed me what a woman needs in order to open up, and he created a safe space where I learned to open myself. Not by telling me, by letting me experience it. That was the beginning.
From there, my world expanded. I explored various sexual directions and forms of experiencing sexuality. Not as a spectator, but as a woman who wanted to feel, learn and understand. During that time, I learned something that no education teaches you: seeing and experiencing what connects people in intimacy and what drives people apart. How your body can know so many different forms of experiencing sensations. How every body works differently. Where patterns come from. How various emotions can help you, but also get in the way of intimacy.
At the same time, I worked as a nurse. People dared to ask anything about their health, but a serious conversation about sex wasn't always easy. The subject of sex wasn't always discussed well, while it can also be an important item when you're sick or old.
My own body was a landscape I learned to explore.
Through breathwork, through tantra, through movement and pelvic floor work, I learned to circulate energy: from my pelvis to my heart, from my heart to my entire body. I discovered pleasure spots I didn’t know existed. I learned to orgasm in places where I had never felt such intense sensations before. Not through techniques, but through presence and surrender. By letting go of shame and replacing it with curiosity. By being fully present in my body, in complete surrender.
I felt more powerful than ever. I began coaching other women and men, completed additional training programmes, and became an intimacy coach: from my own transformation and all the knowledge I had gained through education and courses.
And then it happened…
Despite all that knowledge, despite everything I had discovered, I lost myself.
Not in my body, I stayed there. I was so intertwined with my partner, that it was no longer clear which part was me and which part was a part of us. I gave so much of myself that there was nothing left. I stopped feeling my boundaries and stopped voicing them. I went along where I should have stood still. I lost myself in love: in the pattern I had learned as a child: that the other person’s feelings always came before mine. That love was something you had to earn by putting yourself second.
That was the hardest lesson. You can fully inhabit your body, know the deepest intimacy, and still lose yourself if you don’t learn to feel and express your own boundaries.
After the breakup, I consciously took the time to rediscover myself. To listen better to my body. I learned to calm my nervous system. To let go of emotions that had been stored for too long. To take the time to give a well-felt answer.
I came back into my body. It started to radiate again and my shoulders started to feel lighter.
Everything inside me became quiet and calmed down and I attracted exactly what suited me. Not from lack. But from fullness.
That is where I also start in my coaching. With you and your body. Because I know that the way back to your best intimate life starts with yourself. Perhaps in the place where you are most afraid to look. But that is where change begins, with you and from there a movement is set in motion.
I am Annika. And I am here for you.
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